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In my last post I said I’ll be writing about how media portrayals of psychological problems contribute to misinformation. That’s still coming. But I’m taking a slight detour to comment on two first-person accounts of anxiety that stand out because they’re spot on.
Several of my patients told me a recent New York Times piece really resonated with them. The author teaches creative writing, and she describes her myriad fears and phobias with vivid, skin-crawling imagery. She also skillfully injects some wry, self-deprecating humor into a painful subject without turning it into Woody Allenesque schtick. One warning, though. While most of the couple hundred readers who commented identified with the author’s experiences, a few passed judgment on her and some others were just plain wrong in their assessments of how to treat the problem. So as with all internet opinions about mental health issues, please read with a critical eye.
I’ve also discovered a website to recommend. I stumbled upon it during an hour freed up by a last minute cancellation last week when I should have been getting my taxes in order and instead avoided the task by surfing the internet. ( OK, I don’t always practice what I preach.) Daniel Smith, the blogger and author of an upcoming memoir about his anxiety, does a great job of capturing the experience of living with an anxiety disorder. He’s also very funny, which for me is his biggest therapeutic selling point. Because even though anxiety disorders are no laughing matter, it’s healthy to be able to laugh at yourself from time to time.
I just finished a great book, Jeffrey Eugenides’ The Marriage Plot. Literary and thought provoking with compelling characters and an absorbing story, it captured my interest from start to finish. But this isn’t a culture blog, and I wouldn’t be writing about it if not for one significant plot point: one of the three protagonists has Manic-Depression.
That’s what it was called back in the early eighties when the book takes place. Now the official diagnostic term is Bipolar Disorder. Either way, I’ve never seen such a realistic rendering of this devastating illness in a work of literature.
Most literary and cinematic depictions of psychiatric illnesses tend either to overdramatize them or trivialize and ridicule them. Take Russell Crowe’s mathematician with schizophrenia in A Beautiful Mind, or Jack Nicholson’s character with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in As Good as It Gets.
Eugenides did his research because he doesn’t glamorize Bipolar Disorder. He describes with painful accuracy the devasting slide into depression; the spinning out of control brought on by a manic episode; the weight gain, lethargy, and mental confusion resulting from a poorly calibrated medication regimen. He also presents the gradual erosion of hope in a devoted spouse and the corrosive effects of mental illness on a committed relationship. As in real life, love doesn’t conquer all.
The book reminded me of all the misconceptions about psychological problems and treatment spawned by the popular media. In the next few weeks, I’ll be addressing some of them. .
If my dog Freddie were human, he’d be a perfectionist. Note my choice of the word “if.” I generally try not to anthropomorphize animals because imagining they’re capable of higher order cognition can lead us to expect too much of them. Still, sometimes it’s hard not to project our own emotions onto their mutely expressive faces.
Last night I gave each of my dogs an “educational” Swedish puzzle toy to entertain them. The dog has to figure out how to move swiveling layers, lift off bone-shaped covers, and open sliding hatches to get to hidden morsels of food. Just like my kids did when they were little, my dogs show as much interest in the packaging as in the toys themselves. But since I shelled out a ridiculous amount of money on these “fun, interactive games,” I occasionally try to put them to use.
The ads for the Dog Tornado and Dog Twister promise hours of stimulation for your pet. Once the animal has figured out how to get to the treats, you can increase the difficulty in a variety of ways to build brainpower. The designer clearly hasn’t encountered a dog like Freddie.
Freddie is a quick learner. If he were human, he’d be the kid in the class whose hand shoots up before the teacher has even finished asking the question. When I’m giving a command to Baxter, who’s a little slower on the uptake, Freddie pushes him out of the way and responds first.
So I decided to give Freddie the harder puzzle. Baxter got the easier one. I filled both with identical bits of kibble.
And guess what? Baxter, whose skills I grossly underestimated, swiveled the stacked trays with his nose, pawed frantically at the little trap doors, and scarfed down all the food before Freddie had even extracted one piece. Then I switched the puzzles, giving Freddie the easier one. Baxter had to work a little harder on the more challenging toy. Undeterred, he kept at it until he had emptied almost every compartment. With a final, vigorous push with his snout, he upended the whole contraption to dislodge the last bits. Freddie managed to slide a few of the covers on his toy open before he dropped to the ground, whined, and looked up at me expectantly with his head between his paws
That’s the downside of being clever and always following the rules, wanting to get it just right. If success comes too easily to you, you can’t cope with the frustration when something doesn’t go your way.
Freddie was too tentative and gave up. Baxter had his eyes on the prize and didn’t quit. He wasn’t afraid to make mistakes and tried different strategies to get what he wanted.
But they’re just dogs.