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Short on Time? Try Adding Meditation to Your To-Do List

By Lynne Gots, posted on January 17th, 2013.

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about time—about its elusive nature, its short supply, and its too-rapid passage.

So far no one has invented an app to add more hours to the day. But we can change our relationship to time. How? Through meditation. By adding a formal mindfulness practice to your agenda, you can slow your pace or heighten your awareness of even the briefest moments to get the most bang for your temporal buck.

I came to this discovery recently during a meditation practice. On weekdays, I usually I try to meditate as soon as I arrive at the office. I don’t like to feel rushed, and I get in early enough to give myself plenty of time.

But on this particular day, I needed to answer emails and couldn’t fit in the practice before my first appointment. So, I decided to squeeze it in during a break. I set the timer for twenty minutes and began to focus on my breath, as I do nearly every day.

What I noticed was this: I found myself hurrying, trying to get through the exercise as quickly as possible. I wasn’t cutting short the time—twenty minutes is twenty minutes, no matter how you may try to speed it up—but I remained acutely aware of the clock until the bell I’d set to mark the end of my practice (there is an app for that) rang. I found the process frustrating and unsatisfying.

We often dash through our days in just the same way, rushing to complete one activity so we can move on to the next. Focusing on the end product rather than the process of getting there takes away from what’s happening in the present moment—so much so, in fact, that we often can’t even remember what we’ve just experienced.

When my son was in high school, he had his own epiphany about time. Now a college senior majoring in music performance, back then he’d already begun to get serious about his trumpet playing and, under the guidance of an outstanding teacher and mentor, was finally learning how to practice. Until that point, he’d put in the requisite fifteen or twenty minutes, speeding through his scales and embouchure drills so he could get them over with and play video games. But after reading The Inner Game of Tennis and discovering how to focus, he started playing longer and with a greater sense of presence.

Although 15-year-old boys aren’t typically known for their ability to verbalize complex internal processes, he summed up his experience with an uncharacteristically Yoda-like observation: “When I used to practice, 15 minutes felt like an hour. Now an hour feels like 15 minutes.”

Of course he didn’t realize he’d achieved the enviable mental state called “flow.”

Most of us overly scheduled people would seriously question adding yet another task to our already excessive daily To-Do lists. Between going to work, looking after a family, attempting to maintain a semblance of fitness, and maybe even having a social life, how can we find the time?

It’s possible to make room in your agenda for a mindfulness practice, even though it might mean playing fewer games of Angry Birds or Tweeting less frequently. By including twenty minutes of meditation—or even just five, for starters—you might find you accomplish more throughout the rest of the day. Or, as my son realized, you might even enter The Zone: that sweet spot where you connect effortlessly with your experience and don’t even notice the passage of time. You’ll still have only twenty-four hours at your disposal. But it could feel like all the time in the world. Or like no time at all.




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What is Mindfulness?

By Lynne Gots, posted on October 26th, 2012.

Does the word “mindfulness” conjure up an image of a barefoot yogi sitting cross-legged on a mat, palms open to the sky and eyes closed in blissful contemplation? Or do you think it smacks of New Age healing, along with crystals and vortices? You’re not alone.

Although mindfulness practices have their roots in Buddhism, their secular applications have been gaining considerable empirical credibility in recent years. Research has shown practicing mindfulness can reduce stress; help in coping with chronic pain and illness; bolster the immune system; promote willpower and self-control; prevent relapse in depression; improve tolerance for anxiety and other negative moods; and even change the brain structures involved in learning, memory, and attention.

So, what is mindfulness?

“Mindfulness is paying attention on purpose in the present moment and non-judgmentally.”Jon Kabat-Zinn 

Mindfulness is both a practice and a state of mind. Most of us move through our days at a hectic pace, rushing from one task to another or trying to accomplish too many things at once, often without noticing what we’re doing. Life can seem like nothing more than a never-ending To Do list when we’re going through the motions of our daily existence on autopilot.

By practicing mindfulness, we can learn to shift mental gears out of autopilot and into a state of conscious, intentional awareness of whatever we’re experiencing in the moment. This state of mind is called “being mode.” Its antithesis is called “doing mode.”

I’d like to clear up a few misconceptions about mindfulness.

•Mindfulness isn’t a relaxation method, although practicing mindfulness may be relaxing.

•Mindfulness isn’t emptying your mind of thoughts.

•Mindfulness isn’t just a form of meditation, although meditation is one form of mindfulness practice.

•Mindfulness isn’t a mystical experience. You can be mindful and feel transcendent. But you can also be mindful and feel sad, bored, or frustrated. The most mundane, ordinary activities can present opportunities to practice mindfulness.

•Mindfulness isn’t a technique, although regularly practicing a variety of techniques for cultivating awareness can help you enter a state of mindfulness.

•Mindfulness doesn’t relieve you of suffering or make you happy, But it can help you become aware of thought patterns and reactions that contribute to distress. 

If you decide to try practicing mindfulness, let go of your expectations and approach it with curiosity. Just try it for awhile, and see what it’s like. Open yourself up to the experience, however it may feel to you. That’s mindfulness.

 

 

 

 

 




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Meditation Notebook: Days 6 and 7

By Lynne Gots, posted on March 24th, 2012.

I’ve meditated for five minutes a day, every day, for a week. That’s a total of thirty-five minutes of mindful breathing. Woohoo!

Maybe I should be expressing my pride in this accomplishment in a more restrained fashion, one more befitting the quiet, contemplative nature of the process. But if I’ve learned anything from dipping my toe in the waters of mindfulness, it’s that there is no right or wrong way to go about it.

On some days I felt jumpy and impatient. My mind wanted to review an earlier conversation or plan tomorrow’s dinner instead of attending to my inhalations and exhalations. On other days I felt tired and heavy-lidded. I’d like to say I also had Goldilocks days when it felt “just right,” but that didn’t happen.

Research has shown that regular meditation practice leads to changes in the brain structures associated with self-control, attention, and self-awareness. I’m all for giving my concentration and willpower a boost, so I plan to keep meditating, adding a few minutes to each practice every week, and hope that over time, I’ll improve my mindfulness skills. I’m going to have to wait before I decide whether it’s beneficial for me.

 




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