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How to Meditate: Just Put Your Lips Together and Blow

By Lynne Gots, posted on March 13th, 2012.

I’ve been meaning to start meditating regularly, but somehow I never get around to it. Even though I’ve kept up with the research on meditation’s health benefits, attended workshops on mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, and downloaded Buddhist prayer chime apps on my phone, I keep putting off making meditation a regular part of my day.

If I want to be truly credible when I recommend meditation to my patients, I really need to get off—or, rather, on—my butt and practice it myself.

My armchair quarterbacking reminds me of all the hours spent observing my son while he was learning to play the trumpet before he could drive himself to his weekly lessons. I absorbed his teachers’ suggestions about embouchure and breath control so thoroughly that I almost believed I could pick up a horn and perform a passable rendition of The Hummel without ever having played a note of my own.

When he got stuck on difficult passages during practice, I’d offer helpful technical advice. My tips about double and triple tonguing were always met with some verbal or nonverbal variant of “Shut up, Mom.” ( The maternal wisdom I impart now that he’s in college elicits the same reaction.  But that’s another story.)

In the last week or so, as I’ve been working up to making a public declaration of my intention to cultivate mindfulness through meditation, I’ve at least become more mindful of the mental obstacles I put in my path. Here are a few of them.

  • I don’t have time today.
  • I need to read my new mindfulness book first.
  • I have to do my taxes.
  • I can’t possibly meditate two—TWO—times a day, like the new mindfulness book recommends.
  • It’s too nice outside.
  • I’m so tired I’d fall asleep.
  • I need to buy a more comfortable chair.
  • I can’t start on the weekend.
  • I can’t start in the middle of the week.
  • I’m not good at it.
  • I won’t be able to stick with it.
  • I’d rather watch paint dry.

I’ve decided to start anyway. Yes, I am really busy and it is beautiful out and I am really tired and I do have to work on my taxes and it is the middle of the week.  And I might not stick with it. But I’m going to give it a go—once a day at first and only for five minutes, just to see if I can do it. I plan to write about my observations along the way.

I’m starting today. Quieting my mind will take some extra effort because my son is coming home this afternoon and bringing the four other members of his trumpet ensemble with him. They’ll be rehearsing in our house for their upcoming performance at the National Trumpet Competition.

I hope being more mindful will help me resist the urge to comment on their intonation.




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